About Vini Scott
Welcome! My name is Vini Scott, and my journey to becoming a relationship consultant has been anything but conventional. While I hold a master’s degree in social work, with hundreds of continuing education hours, and an undergraduate liberal arts degree in history, my true expertise lies in understanding chronic, repeated failure—because I’ve lived it.
Professional Credentials
I am an accredited LMSW, EMDR and ACT clinician, co-author of a successful, one-of-a-kind anger management program, and I’ve spent years counseling individuals on the razor’s edge of life and death. I also launched a non-profit for at-risk youth, have won multiple grants as a successful grant writer, and had my original research published in an academic journal. I’m deeply grateful to be in recovery from substance abuse disorder for nearly two decades—a milestone that underscores my commitment to self-improvement and resilience.
My PhD in What NOT to Do
Despite these accomplishments, what truly qualifies me as an expert in relationships are my life experiences. I’ve been through three failed marriages and countless other relationship failures. During my third divorce, while still in grad school, I hit rock bottom. I couldn’t understand why everyone else seemed to make relationships look so easy while I struggled so profoundly.
It was in that season of despair that I realized the problem wasn’t external—it was me. I was the common denominator in all my failed relationships. If I wanted things to change, I had to change. This insight became the catalyst for a profound transformation.
The Journey to Becoming Different
As an accomplished researcher, I turned my skills inward, rigorously analyzing my own life. I reverse-engineered the patterns that contributed to my failures, applying evidence-based therapeutic techniques to my past selves. I journaled extensively, sought input from colleagues and professors, and continuously asked tough questions about myself.
The most significant discovery from my research was this: the number one predictor of relationship failure is a profound lack of self-compassion. Learning to love myself—truly and unconditionally—was the key to breaking the cycle of failure. This realization led me to write a book about my journey and to create The Brave Compassion, a platform dedicated to helping others develop authentic self-compassion. This process is both terrifying and wonderful, but it’s the foundation for any healthy relationship.
Why I Left the Clinical World
After years of working within the constraints of the traditional therapy model, I became disillusioned with the insurance-driven approach to mental health. The demands of documentation, overhead costs, and constant licensing requirements left little room for true connection and healing. I realized that I could reach and help more people by stepping away from the clinical world and offering my services in a different format.
What I Can Offer You
Today, I am a specialized relationship consultant with expertise in behavioral psychology, analytical psychology, and depth psychology (Jungian model). I teach proven techniques that produce measurable results and provide stand-alone self-paced courses that are relationship-driven. For those seeking deeper transformation, I offer one-to-one relationship coaching and group consulting in a variety of contexts.
My approach is designed for midlifers who may never seek traditional therapy but are ready to make meaningful changes. I offer value with affordable, on-demand digital products and variety with multiple packages to choose from. If you’re looking for personalized coaching or specialized group consulting services, I’m here to help you navigate the complexities of midlife and cultivate self-compassion.
Why Work with Me?
Because I’ve been where you are. I know what it’s like to face repeated failure, to feel lost, and to yearn for change. But I also know the path to transformation, and I’m here to guide you through it. Let’s embark on this journey together—toward self-compassion, healthier relationships, and a more fulfilling life.
